Sunday, October 24, 2010

Make schools safe for teachers and students

DEPUTY Prime Minister and Education Minister Tan Sri Muhyiddin Yassin said in Parliament last week that some 1,650 of 55,000 school buildings were found to be severely damaged and required immediate attention.

Five percent of the number was found to have wiring problems.

This revelation is a matter of grave concern not only to the Education Ministry, but also to the teachers, parents and students.

What immediately comes to mind is how soon will this be rectified as the safety of teachers and the students are at stake.

Over the years a number of accidents had occurred in schools which resulted in injuries to students.

The latest incident involved SK Gunong in Kedah where a classroom floor caved in while a class was going on and 10 pupils and a teacher were injured.

According to Muhyiddin, the Government allocated RM8.85bil for his ministry to carry out development projects under the 10th Malaysia Plan. An estimated RM5.36bil would be used to continue uncompleted projects under the 9th Malaysia Plan. The balance is to construct new buildings and schools, as well as upgrading existing ones.

As such, the Government should provide a special allocation for repairs and rectification works on all affected schools in the interest of safety.

Under no circumstances must the safety of teachers and students be compromised and the “safe school” concept of the Education Ministry be put in jeopardy.

The subject of “safe schools” should not be confined only to indiscipline, crime, threats to the safety of students, bullying and gangster-like behavior etc but also to matters concerning the safety of school buildings, classrooms, equipment and all other amenities in schools.

In this regard, there is a need for schools to be aware of the existence and importance of the Occupational Safety and Health Act 1994 and its application to educational institutions.

Schools with 40 or more employees are required to set up safety and health committees.

Through safety and health training, and education as well as safety and health promotion, every school will be more aware of the potential safety and health hazards in the school. They will also be capable of dealing with any problems that arise.

Such a move will also benefit the students who can learn more about safety and health at an early age.


Kuala Lumpur.

Saturday, October 16, 2010

Bilingual option for students and teachers

KUALA LUMPUR: All Year One pupils in national schools next year will be studying Science and Mathematics in Bahasa Malaysia.

They will not be given a choice to answer in English for school tests and public examinations as they progress through the years. Their textbooks would also be in Bahasa Malaysia, said Education director-general Tan Sri Alimuddin Mohd Dom.

Those entering Form One and Form Four next year will be given the option to study Science and Maths either in Bahasa Malaysia or English. Their textbooks, however, will be in English.

"If the students are ready to be taught in Bahasa Malaysia, then the teacher can teach the two subjects in Bahasa Malaysia. If they are not ready, then the teacher can teach in English or opt to teach in both languages.
"Through the 'soft landing' approach, the change in the medium of instruction for the teaching of Science and Maths will be done gradually to accommodate the variability in students' and teachers' readiness," Alimuddin told the New Sunday Times.

He said the process of transition will be done in stages (refer to transition table).

Alimuddin added that the switch to Bahasa Malaysia as the medium of instruction for Science and Maths would apply to national schools, whereas in SJKs (national-type schools), the switch would be to their mother tongues -- Mandarin in SJKC and Tamil in SJKT respectively.

Students entering Form Two in 2012, said Alimuddin, would be allowed to study Science and Maths in Bahasa Malaysia and English until they reach Form Five in 2015.

"Textbooks in Bahasa Malaysia will be supplied to Year One pupils beginning next year and Year Four beginning 2012 for primary schools. For the SJKC and SJKT, there will be textbooks in Mandarin and Tamil respectively.

"As for secondary schools, textbooks in Bahasa Malaysia will be supplied to Form One and Form Four students beginning 2012.

"Students are allowed to answer in English in exams during the transitional period but once the medium of instruction is completely in Bahasa Malaysia for a particular year or form, then they are required to answer in Bahasa Malaysia," said Alimuddin.

Asked whether schools will be given the option to teach the two subjects in English, Alimuddin said: "The bilingual medium of instruction is allowed only during the transitional period. Once the medium of instruction is completely Bahasa Malaysia for a particular year or form, then the only medium of instruction allowed is Bahasa Malaysia.

"By 2016, the medium of instruction for both subjects across primary and secondary schools will completely be in Bahasa Malaysia in all national schools," said Alimuddin.

He said 2013 was the last year in which the Penilaian Menengah Rendah examination would be conducted in two languages for Science and Maths, while for the Ujian Pencapaian Sekolah Rendah and Sijil Pelajaran Malaysia examinations, it would be in 2015.

On July 8, last year, Deputy Prime Minister Tan Sri Muhyiddin Yassin, who is also the education minister, announced the cabinet's decision to reverse the policy of teaching Science and Maths in English (or PPSMI).

Muhyiddin was reported to have said Science and Maths would be taught in Bahasa Malaysia and vernacular languages in stages from 2012 in line with the ministry's "Memartabatkan Bahasa Melayu, Memperkukuhkan Bahasa Inggeris -- Upholding the Malay Language, strengthening command of English" strategic move.

The reversal in policy came seven years after PPSMI was introduced by former prime minister Tun Dr Mahathir Mohamad in 2003.

Muhyiddin told Parliament in October last year that the ministry was mulling the possibility of teaching the two subjects in Bahasa Malaysia to Year One pupils next year, ahead of the initial 2012 target.

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Sunday, May 30, 2010

Harga Examo

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Harga di Semenanjung Malaysia dan Sabah/Sarawak adalah sama. Perbezaan harga ditanggung oleh (hanya pembelian online layak mendapatnya).

Barang Harga
Examo CKM500 (guna harian) 56.00
Examo CKM500 Plus (guna mingguan) 28.00
Examo Ekonopek (CKM500 + CKM Plus) 80.00

Saturday, May 22, 2010

A teacher’s job is to teach

I HAD the privilege of being a temporary teacher at a primary school in rural Selangor, but I left feeling truly honoured to have had the experience of being a “cikgu” even if it were only for two weeks.

I am amazed at the amount of work that teachers put in to mould and mentor their young charges and totally agree that it is indeed a noble profession.

Teachers, traditionally, are supposed to teach and educate the young.

They also need to inculcate good moral values in youngsters so they can be better people.

Their focus is not only to teach. They also have to train their students for numerous sporting competitions.

This is not all, they have to single-handedly deal with the organising and preparation involved in getting the medals, gifts and certificates.

What’s more, they attend courses and meetings during school hours and at the same time have to keep up with the syllabus.

As if this isn’t enough, they are bogged down with paper work which involves the filling in of forms and writing reports about the extra-curricular activities.

Looks like the Education Ministry is trying to convert teachers into office workers!

What is the role of the school clerk then? Or have they been given other jobs?

I am told by a teacher that most of the paperwork, like the reports for the extra-curricular activities, is unnecessary and is just done for the sake of pleasing senior officials in the State Education Department and the Education Ministry.

No one actually reads them, and the documents either collect dust or are eventually thrown away. Isn’t this is a waste of time, money and resources?

Based on my observations, the teachers already have a packed schedule and countless books to mark.

They also have to prepare teaching materials before entering the class, but it is worth their effort because it is for the sake of the students.

However, the non-teaching chores take too much time and they are unable to devote enough time to teach their pupils.

Every time when there is degradation in the major exam results, the government will quickly blame a certain policy for failing to achieve its objectives, but has anyone thought that the heavy workload that teachers have to put off with might be the underlying reasons for students to be unprepared for their exams.

I have some suggestions that may be of help to reduce the paperwork that teachers are burdened with.

·Increase the number of clerks in the school as this will reduce the workload of teachers. It will increase job opportunities for those keen on clerical services.

·Train more PJK (Physical Education) teachers, so they can replace core-subject teachers and be specially in charge of training the students and bringing them to participate in the sporting competitions.

·Courses should be conducted during school holidays.

This will enable teachers to complete the syllabus and leave them with considerable time to carry out revision and extra classes for weaker students.

The government has to listen to the people. There is a Chinese proverb which says that sincere advice always sounds harsh to the ears, but it must be acted upon, if we want to see the results.


Via e-mail

Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Dirempuh ketika melintas

PUTRAJAYA: Bunyi seretan brek disusuli dentuman kuat mengejutkan beberapa penghuni kawasan perumahan Presint 8 di sini, apabila seorang murid sekolah dilanggar sebuah kereta, petang semalam.

Sebelum kejadian, mangsa, Adibatul Husna Mohamed Rais, 10, murid tahun empat Sekolah Kebangsaan Putrajaya Presint 8 (1) dipercayai berlari melintas jalan selepas panik apabila ditinggalkan rakan, kira-kira jam 2 petang.

Bagaimanapun, sebuah kereta Perodua Myvi dipandu seorang wanita dipercayai tidak sempat membrek sebelum merempuh kanak-kanak berkenaan.

Saksi, Azman Aziz, 49, berkata, dia mendengar sebuah kereta membrek dan mendengar dentuman kuat sebelum bergegas untuk melihat punca bunyi itu. “Ketika sampai di tempat kejadian, saya melihat seorang murid perempuan terbaring di jalan raya dipercayai dilanggar kereta itu.

“Saya menghubungi anak saya yang bekerja di Perbadanan Putrajaya (PPj) sebelum memintanya melaporkan kejadian itu kepada polis dan menghubungi ambulans,” katanya ketika ditemui di tempat kejadian.

Menurutnya, mangsa yang patah tangan kiri dan luka ringan di muka dan kaki dipercayai melintas jalan ke sekolah itu dan tidak menyedari kehadiran kereta yang dipandu laju.

“Mangsa dilanggar berhampiran lintasan pejalan kaki, namun dia tidak menggunakan lintasan berkenaan ketika melintas.

“Sekolah itu tidak mempunyai pengawal lalu lintas dan mengundang bahaya kerana murid sekolah rendah tidak pandai mengagak kelajuan kenderaan,” katanya.

Adibatul Husna dihantar ke Hospital Putrajaya oleh ambulans bagi menerima rawatan.

Sementara itu, jurucakap polis Bahagian Trafik Ibu Pejabat Polis Putrajaya ketika dihubungi mengesahkan kejadian itu yang membabitkan sebuah kenderaan dipandu seorang wanita yang bekerja di Presint 8.

Menurutnya, wanita terbabit sudah membuat laporan kejadian itu, manakala sehingga kini, polis belum menerima sebarang laporan daripada keluarga mangsa.

Oleh Syarifah Dayana Syed Bakri

Televisyen punca pengaruh negatif

KUALA LUMPUR - Tabiat menonton televisyen didakwa menjadi punca utama berlakunya obesiti dalam kalangan orang dewasa dan kanak-kanak selain pembawa kesan negatif yang boleh mempengaruhi minda kanak-kanak.

Pengarah Komunikasi Kumpulan Persatuan Pengguna Malaysia (Fomca), Mohd Yusof Abdul Rahman berkata, menonton televisyen secara berlebihan mewujudkan gaya hidup menyendiri dan tidak banyak terlibat dalam aktiviti fizikal selain menyebabkan obesiti.

Atas dasar itu, Fomca melancarkan Kempen Minggu Tidak Menonton Televisyen yang bermula pada 21 hingga 27 April lalu bertujuan membantu mewujudkan kesedaran bahawa masa menonton televisyen perlu dihadkan kepada kurang dua jam sehari.

“Menurut kajian, golongan muda dan kanak-kanak menghabiskan masa antara empat hingga enam jam sehari menonton televisyen berbanding melakukan aktiviti fizikal.

“Jadi, melalui kempen ini kami berharap ibu bapa menyedari bahawa anak tidak boleh terlalu leka menonton televisyen terutama bagi mereka yang berumur dua tahun ke bawah.

"Ini kerana faktor persekitaran dan pengaruh yang dibawa oleh rancangan di televisyen itu sendiri,” katanya pada Sinar Harian pada Program Analisis Kempen Tidak Menonton Televisyen di Tabika Kemas Kem Batu Kentonmen.

Beliau berkata, kempen tersebut dianggap berjaya setelah menerima komen daripada ibu bapa memandangkan sepanjang seminggu kempen, mereka lebih banyak meluangkan masa dan membawa anak menjalani aktiviti riadah sekali gus mengeratkan hubungan terutamanya bagi mereka yang sibuk bekerja.

“Kita dapat reaksi positif daripada ibu bapa, ada yang mengatakan sepanjang mempraktikkan minggu kempen tidak menonton televisyen, mereka lebih mengenali anak mereka kerana ada yang meluahkan perasaan dan masalah.

“Fomca ada memberi buku laporan untuk dicatatkan mengenai aktiviti yang dilakukan bersama -anak dan beberapa cadangan aktiviti alternatif yang boleh dilakukan seperti membawa anak ke Zoo Negara, pergi ke perpustakaan, menolong ibu bapa dan aktiviti riadah lain.

“Kempen ini mendapat sambutan daripada ibu bapa berdasarkan laporan yang dicatatkan,” katanya.

Monday, April 26, 2010

Kisah sedih

Losing a child is every parents nightmare.
Never across in my mind that one day my child will die before me.


And it happens to me, in split second, he left me forever. Without any
warning, without saying goodbye and never in my mind, it would be this way.

I love him so much.

I miss him so much.

Only ALLAH knows how I feel now, but I must be redha. Ini ketentuan Allah.
No one can stop it. *NO ONE *. Sudah tertulis, ajal Dzafri sudah tiba pada
20hb Mac 2010, pukul 8.50pm. Semuanya sudah tertulis.

My second son, DZAFRI HISYAM BIN KHAIRULANWAR, passed away peacefully on 20
March 2010 at 8.50pm, at ICU/NICU Ampang Puteri and he was 15 months old
(born on 22 September 2008).

He was first diagnosed with dengue (the diagnosed and confirmation of the
dengue was made by our regular pediatrician at Wangsa Maju) and later
transferred to Ampang Puteri on 20 March 2010 (Saturday) because Dzafri had
trouble breathing and the first hospital doesnt have the proper equipment.

The minute we arrived at Ampang Puteri by ambulance, the consultant
pediatrician at the ICU/NICU ward have said this to me, "Your baby is too
sick. What happened? I cannot promise you anything.... "


What?????? Said that again????

But still in my head, I thought to myself that this doctor is wrong. Ya, me,
without any medical background, wants to tell to this experience doctor that
he is wrong. And he continue, "I think this is not dengue, this is something
else. He is too pale. Do he have talasemia?" I quickly replied to him, "No.
What do you mean by something else. The doctor (referring to the earlier
pediatrician) told me it was dengue." "Never mind. I will do the test
first." He replied.

I kept quiet to myself, not saying anything and just let the doctor and his
nurses doing their job. I was with Dzafri in that ICU room, waiting for my
husband and Dzarif as I arrived earlier with the ambulance. Still in shock
of what the doctor told me, but I still remaining calm. Tapi dalam hati, Ya
Allah, Tuhan saja tahu. I just want to scream, yell, cry ... and all I want
to do at that time is Dzafri to be ok and we can all go home.

Dzafri was put on oxygen, drip, wayar sana sini-at his chest, hand, his
little feet .... He starts to merengek, maybe because tak selesa dgn
wayar-wayar yang banyak tu. He didnt cried, but he wants me to hold him
tight. Tapi macam mana nak dukung him with all the wayar, dari hidung,
lengan, tgn, kaki semuanya ada. I tried to make him comfortable as I could,
but I know, he's scared. Me too..

After 1/2 hour in the ward, Dzafri tertidur and I quickly make my way to the
registration counter as hubby is stuck in the traffic jammed. habis urusan
di kaunter tu, I quickly ran back to the ward and there, the doctor is
waiting for me to show Dzafri chest Xray.

"Its pneumonia. Its getting worst. What actually the doctor told you?"

I explained to him the whole thing, from the first day Dzafri had his demam
which is on Monday night, we went to see his pediatrician on Wednesday and
was admitted on Friday because the doctor suspected dengue or viral fever,
and which the blood test done on Friday and Saturday with the platlet count
drop to 28, the pediatrician confirmed it was dengue but, Dzafri had trouble
breathing since Wednesday and the pediatrician told me its only phlegm and
something to do with Croup bacteria/virus.

"No. This is nothing to do with dengue or viral fever. Its pneumonia and his
chest Xray shows that his right lung is filled with pus ? (nanah) and he
need to be operate immediately" .

I was nearly fainted.

My hubby was outside at the visitor lounge, waiting with Dzarif, because kid
under 12 are not allowed to be in the ICU ward and we had nobody to look
after him. I agreed with the operation thing and quickly ran to my husband,
asked him to see the doctor and explained to him once more. Just before
that, another doctor came into the room. The nurse introduced him as the
Pakar Bedah Paru-paru. He was holding the chest xray and was saying
something to the first doctor. Then, he explained to me. This time, his
words really make me want to cry.

"Its pneumonia but I ternampak satu benda asing dalam paru-paru dia ni.. I
rasa ada ketumbuhan. Growth."




At that time, I am really confused. Sad. The reason the whole transfer thing
from the previous hospital to Ampang Puteri is because he has trouble
breathing and the doctor there confirmed that it was dengue.

How can from dengue be a tumor?

He never sick before. Only demam, selsema like the rest of other kids. Bagi
ubat, dia baik. Tidak pernah pun dia terbaring lama, kesakitan. Never. He
never get sick before. I really dont understand.

"Your doctor tak pernah instruct for Xray?" Asked the surgeon again.

"No. And I pun tak pernah terfikir nak hantar dia for Xray coz dia tak
pernah sakit".

"Its not your fault. The doctor should advise you. We need to sent him for
scan. Then baru I betul-betul boleh confirm whether its tumor or something
else. But from my experience, its tumor and maybe dah lama kat sini, maybe
since birth. Pneumonia is because of the tumor. I cuma boleh tahu the size,
berapa lama and what kind of tumor after the scan. Then baru I boleh buat

Again, I just kept quiet, trying very hard to understand all this. Dzafri
starts merengek balik, and this time, I started to cry. I asked the doctor
to discuss it with my husband. I went to get him, again, I have to wait with
Dzarif at the visitor lounge. Only few minutes inside the ward, he came to
get me, saying that Dzafri is crying and looking for me.

I quickly ran to get him, seeing that the nurses try to pujuk him but he's
still crying and mengamuk rimas because of the wayar. The nurses prepared
him to sleep, as before can get into the scan, he must sleep.

With the help of the nurses, I tried to give him the ubat tidur. Its a sweet
syrup, but my poor boy refused to take it. Its not like normal Dzafri who
loved to eat, drink, even ubat. Since Wednesday, his selera makan kurang and
starts on Friday, he refused to drink, eat and even takes his milk. Its so
sad bila mengenangkan, yang dia memang suka makan, but dia akhir hayat dia,
he cant eat.... maybe because sakit yang ditanggung .... I dont know. I
really dont. Sampai sekarang, everytime I ate, I must remember him, because
he is my partner when makan time. He will walk towards me or starts mumbling
when he saw his plate or my plate or any foods in my hand.......

Even though the portion of the ubat given to him suitable for his age and
weight, he still cant sleep. He start merengek again, pulling all the wayar,
tried to sit on the bed and he looked at me with his sad eyes, asking me to
hold him. The nurses help me with the wayar, and I hold him tight, tried to
put him to sleep. Because if he cant sleep, they cant put him into the scan
machine. Still, he cant sleep after holding him for almost 15 minutes. The
nurse put him to IV, with hope that he will sleep, but no .... He merengek
lagi kuat, pulling all the wayar, pusing sana sini, wants me to hold him
....... I tried to calm him down, pujuk dia, berzikir, and looks like he wants
to sleep ..... but I was wrong.

It was 8.35pm.

He starts to tersentak-sentak, like kena fit. I thought its fit because dia
pernah kena fit on 4 November 2009 and 1 February 2010. I yelled to the
nurse, saying that dia kena fit, but the nurse reply to me ....

"Ni bukan fit kak"

Before she could finish her sentence, she quickly called out all of the
nurses in the ICU/NICU ward and the doctors. Just a split second, there is
about 7, 8 nurses in the room and one of them had asked me to leave the
room. That minute I know something terrible happened.

I was crying , more into menjerit, meraung, asking the nurses what's going
on. 2 of them tried to calm me down, asked me to sit on the chair as I
nearly collapsed. I tak sedar, my husband were there with Dzarif. I couldnt
say anthing, only sat there and cried. Dzarif come to me and hug me, saying
to me not to cry. I even cry loud, saying that I am sad because adik sick.

My husband were asking me what had happened as he spent most of the time at
the visitor lounge because he cant be with Dzafri in the ward because need
to take care Dzarif. I told him what had happened. Dia terkejut, quickly
berdoa for Dzafri and asked me to do the same.

Then, the doctor came and see my husband.

"I cannot promise you anything. I think there's no hope, but I will try my

My husband can only said, Ya Allah.

I cried.

And only after 2 minutes, the doctor came to us again.

I cant barely hear what he's saying but my husband came to me.

Hug me and kiss me.

"Dzafri dah tak ada, yang. Ya Allah."

And it was 8.50pm.

I still sit on the chair, crying like I never cried before.


My husband went into the room. I was still outside, this time I was sitting
on the floor, making calls to my family and friends.

I cant walked to the room. I have no strength to do that. I just cant. I
couldnt face this. My son is gone.

I am so sad. I could not explained more. No words can described it.

It felt like my chest just being stabbed.

Ya Allah. Beratnya dugaan yang Kau berikan kali ini.

After I have called my friends, Maria and Zul, called my aunties, my
brother. Then I called my mom. The minute I told her that Dzafri had passed
away, my dad pengsan. Ya Allah, Ya Tuhanku. Berilah aku kekuatan. Then I
called my mom again to make sure that she and my dad are ok. Luckily, my
aunty just stayed near there and a cousin had offered to drive my parent
from Kluang, Johor to KL that night.

Then, I slowly walked to Dzafri room.

There he was, lying on the bed.

I cant hear his voice again.

No 'mama' to greet me.

No chicky smile to welcome me.

No bye bye hand from him.

He just lying there.

He's gone. Forever.

I held him tight. Crying, screaming his name. Saying No. I dont why, but I
said "No, Dzafri. No."

I dont know how long i cried, screaming his name.

Then, I sat. I was tired.

I asked the nurses, "Betul ke dik dia dah tak ada".

The nurse looked at me, "Betul kak. Dia dah tak ada."

I repeatedly asked her the same question. And she reply me with the same

My Dzafri is no longer with me.

I miss him. Today (1 April 2010) is the 12th day since he passed away.

But I can still hear his voice.

I can still hear his cries.

I can still remember his laughter.

I can still smells him.

And I still remember his smile.

Ya Allah, aku redha dgn ketentuanMu. Berilah aku semangat dan kekuatan dalam
menempuh dugaan Mu yang besar dan berat ini, Ya Allah. Sesungguhnya, Kau
Maha Pengasih, Maha Pengampun. Segala-gala yang terjadi adalah kehendak mu
Ya Allah dan aku sebagai hambaMu, redha dengan segalanya. Tempatkanlah
Dzafri di sisi M,u di kalangan orang beriman, di syurga Mu. Kau temukanlah
kami bersamanya di syurga Mu, Ya Allah. - Amin. *

*Dzafri, *

*Mummy love you so much. I am going to miss you forever. Not only me, ayah,
abang, totok, grandma, uncle adik, auntie mek, and all of us will missing
you dearly. I love you dear. No words can described how much I miss you
right now. I love you dear. I have to let you go. But I'm going to miss you
forever and my love will never fade. You are my only DZAFRI.

Saturday, April 24, 2010

Don't talk to Strangers

POLICE believe that there are windows of opportunity for abduction to happen when children are at school.

"Some schools are pretty safe -- they have a guardhouse and the security guard is always at attention. We also understand that their gates are usually closed during school hours. But there are some that are probably not as careful," said Deputy Superintendent Norisah Ab Hamid, who heads the children's investigation unit under the sexual and children's investigation division, or D11.

Police are also concerned that children are left largely to their own devices once the school bell rings. It doesn't help that most children today are "very friendly".

"They talk to strangers freely. Parents should tell them not to talk to strangers. Teach them to say 'no'. Teach your child to shout for help if a stranger approaches or touches him or her," she said.

Young children, especially those under 15, are more vulnerable and should never be left alone, she added.

However, current statistics show that cases of missing children usually occur around the child's home.

Some examples would be the abduction of Nurin Jazlin Jazimin and Sharlinie Mohd Nasar.

Nurin, 8, was reported missing while on her way to the night market near her house in Wangsa Maju on Aug 20, 2007. Her naked body was later found stuffed into a sports bag and left in the stairwell of a shoplot in Petaling Jaya a month later.

Five-year-old Sharlinie was reported missing while playing outside her house in Taman Medan on Jan 9, 2008.

"From the reports we've received, it seems that such incidents are happening closer to home," Norisah said.

She said when it comes to the safety of children, everyone has a responsibility, not just the parents or teachers.

"Be a busybody. If you see a child playing somewhere all alone, ask the child to go home or notify the parents. Each of us can help prevent a crime."

National Parent-Teacher Association president Associate Professor Datuk Mohd Ali Hasan pointed out that the culture of safety and security in schools was still lacking.

"We need more stringent security measures, especially in preschools. Strangers can easily enter some schools and preschools," said Ali.

A case in point would be the hammer attack on three 6-year-old pupils in Muar, Johor, by a man wearing a crash helmet who had rushed into their kindergarten.

The pupils from Tadika Sinario were hit on the head and had to be rushed to the Sultanah Fatimah Specialist Hospital.

The man had reportedly jumped over the fence and kicked open the grille door of the kindergarten before attacking the pupils.

Ali suggested random spot checks be conducted by the Inspectorate of Schools to check on the safety measures of all schools.

"Our safety system is not adequate. Children can easily be abducted. There should also be safety drills and safety committees in all schools. The committees should present monthly reports at parent-teacher association meetings," said Ali.


Wednesday, April 21, 2010

What Children Can Teach Their Parents

Every parent has experienced the phenomena of their child begging for their favourite story to be read, their favourite song to be played or their favourite movie to be watched for the 100th time.

Even though we adults might be tempted to hide the favourite book or introduce a new book, CD, or DVD, we must stop ourselves because our children are actually teaching us a huge lesson about how they want and need to be parented.

When our children repeat a request for their favourite story to be read, it is because they have an innate interest in ‘mastery’. Of course they love to explore new toys, corners, books and movies, but once the all-important excitement of discovery has occurred, children set out to ‘master’ the things that interest them the most.

Mastery occurs through repetition. Young children are driven to discover and then master all aspects of their world.

Discipline is another area in which children innately crave mastery. Children test their parents because they are trying to figure out how their world works and what is acceptable behaviour. While they do their research they do things consciously and unconsciously to investigate their world and it’s limits so that they are able to ‘master’ it.

The best thing parents can do is to learn a simple methodology for discipline, get trained to use it and then apply it consistently. This will decrease the number of times their child needs to test and will diminish the intensity of the testing. Children whose parents often use different strategies, use bribes or threats become very confused and unsure of themselves. It is for this reason that many parenting experts say that discipline makes children feel safe and secure.

One can liken children’s feelings to the experience of hiking down a trail with very few trail signs or markers. It’s confusing! Without clear signals to keep one on course, one is more likely to make wrong turns and get into trouble. This is what it’s like for children as they try to learn the path of acceptable behaviour. When limits are unclear or inconsistent, children often steer off course and get into trouble, thus making mastery of acceptable behaviour very difficult and unsettling.

So, as you spend time with your child, remember what it is that they crave the most…mastery. Let’s be conscious of this and then make a decision to help them master their world with confidence and ease.

Image: Cuellar

Monday, April 19, 2010

Nota terjun tingkat 11

KUALA LUMPUR: Tekanan perasaan dialami selepas mendakwa sering dimarahi keluarga kerana mendapat keputusan peperiksaan tidak memuaskan membuatkan seorang pelajar tingkatan tiga sanggup terjun daripada tingkat 11 pangsapuri didiami.

Sebelum terjun, pelajar perempuan itu sempat menulis surat meluahkan perasaan kecewanya kerana kerap dimarahi ibu bapa apabila gagal mencapai kejayaan cemerlang dalam peperiksaan.

Malah, dia juga turut merakamkan gambar sendiri menggunakan telefon bimbit yang menunjukkan seolah-olah cuba menjerut leher menggunakan rantai yang dipakainya.

Sumber polis berkata, dalam kejadian jam 5 pagi itu, remaja berkenaan dipercayai bertindak terjun dari tingkap bilik tidurnya selepas meninggalkan surat dan bukti berhubung masalah dialami.

Menurutnya, pelajar yang tinggal bersama ahli keluarga di Ketumbar Height, Cheras di sini, cedera parah di kepala dan tubuh kesan dari hentakan kuat menyebabkan dia mati di lokasi kejadian sebelum mayatnya ditemui penduduk pangsapuri itu.

“Berdasarkan siasatan, mangsa kerap menginap di rumah mak ciknya di tingkat empat di pangsapuri sama, namun pada hari kejadian, mangsa dikatakan pulang ke rumahnya di tingkat 11 kediaman itu.

“Sebelum terjun, mangsa sempat menggunakan telefon bimbit kamera miliknya untuk merakam perbuatan anehnya. Berdasarkan siasatan, dia dilihat sengaja menggunakan rantai leher sambil seolah-olah cuba menjerut lehernya sendiri,” katanya.

Menurutnya, pelajar itu kemudian menulis di atas dua keping kertas mencurahkan segala masalah dan rasa isi hatinya. Antaranya mendakwa tertekan dengan keputusan akademiknya yang mengecewakan menyebabkan dia kerap dimarah oleh ibu bapa.

“Mangsa mendakwa tertekan dengan tindakan ibu bapanya yang kerap meluahkan rasa tidak puas hati sehingga dia mengambil keputusan untuk membunuh diri bagi menghentikan penderitaan dialami,” katanya.

Menurutnya, mayat remaja itu dihantar ke Pusat perubatan Hospital Kebangsaan Malaysian (PPUKM) untuk bedah siasat.

“Setakat ini siasatan mendapati kematian mangsa tidak membabitkan unsur jenayah dan ia adalah kes mati mengejut,” katanya.

Bagaimanapun, keluarga mangsa yang diambil keterangan polis tidak percaya mangsa sanggup membunuh diri hanya kerana tertekan dengan keputusan peperiksaan diperoleh.

Bapa mangsa berusia 49, mendakwa dia dan isteri tidak pernah memarahi anak gadis mereka atau memberi tekanan kepadanya.

Difahamkan, bapa mangsa meminta polis menyiasat punca kes kematian mangsa lebih terperinci bagi mengenal pasti motif sebenar di sebalik kematian anak gadisnya itu.

Oleh Mohd Jamilul Anbia Md Denin

Sunday, April 18, 2010

MARA sponsors more than 62,000 students this year

KUALA LUMPUR: The Majlis Amanah Rakyat (MARA) has sponsored more than 62,620 students to pursue studies in various fields, including 6,831 in learning institutions overseas.

Deputy Rural and Regional Development Minister Datuk Joseph Entulu Belaun said MARA had two sponsorship schemes for local and overseas studies, namely the outstanding student scheme and the open financing scheme.

"The condition or pre-requisite for students going overseas under the outstanding student scheme is to obtain excellent result in Sijil Pelajaran Malaysia (SPM), participation in co-curriculum activities and to pass the interview.

"MARA will also evaluate in terms of the socio-economic status of the applicant's family," he said when winding-up the debate on the Supplementary Supply Bill (2010) 2010 in the Dewan Rakyat today.

He said sponsorship by MARA focused on critical areas like medicine, engineering, biotechnology, sanctuary science, accounts, management and administration and architecture.

On the delay in payment of the cost of living allowance for overseas students, he said, it happened because of the delay by students in submitting the necessary documents, including account books, to the MARA office.
"For overseas students, MARA will pay them in advance the cost of living allowance for six months, including for clothing, to help them prepare for a new life in a foreign land.

"To facilitate this, students are required to open a bank account in the country there are in and to submit a copy of the account book and some other documents to the MARA office for purpose of crediting the allowance," he added. - Bernama

Friday, April 9, 2010

Keputusan ke matrikulasi diketahui Jumaat depan

PUTRAJAYA 9 April – Pelajar lepasan Sijil Pelajaran Malaysia (SPM) yang telah membuat permohonan untuk mengikuti program matrikulasi, boleh mengetahui keputusan permohonan mereka mulai 16 April ini.

Menurut kenyataan Kementerian Pelajaran di sini hari ini, semakan boleh dibuat dengan melayari laman web dan memasukkan nombor kad pengenalan serta angka giliran SPM pemohon.

Semakan juga boleh dibuat dengan menghantar khidmat pesanan ringkas (SMS) dengan menaip perkataan MOEMATNO KP (pelajar) dan hantar ke talian 15888.

Talian bantuan Bahagian Matrikulasi iaitu 03-88844100 juga boleh dihubungi mulai tarikh yang sama dari pukul 8.30 pagi hingga 4 petang (hari bekerja sahaja) untuk mengetahui keputusan permohonan tersebut.

Tarikh pendaftaran pelajar matrikulasi ialah pada 10 Mei dan surat tawaran serta maklumat lanjut tentang pendaftaran, yuran dan sebagainya akan dihantar oleh kolej matrikulasi atau kolej Mara berkenaan.

Kenyataan itu juga menyebut, pelajar yang layak dan telah memohon, tetapi gagal mendapat tempat boleh membuat rayuan terus melalui internet mulai 16 hingga 30 April.

Keputusan rayuan boleh diketahui pada 24 Mei melalui laman web, SMS serta talian bantuan Bahagian Matrikulasi. – Bernama

Monday, April 5, 2010

JPA tawar 1,500 biasiswa PILN

PARIS: Kerajaan melalui Jabatan Perkhidmatan Awam (JPA) menyediakan 1,500 biasiswa kepada pelajar cemerlang lepasan Sijil Pelajaran Malaysia (SPM) bagi Program Ijazah Luar Negara (PILN) tahun ini dengan penajaan berjumlah RM1.24 bilion untuk sepanjang pengajian.

Timbalan Perdana Menteri, Tan Sri Muhyiddin Yassin, berkata program untuk menyediakan biasiswa yang berprestij itu bertujuan melahirkan modal insan yang berkualiti bagi menjamin kesinambungan keupayaan negara di masa akan datang.

"Fokus penajaan PILN 2010 adalah kepada bidang-bidang kritikal dan keutamaan yang diperlukan oleh negara pada masa hadapan, seperti perubatan, pergigian, farmasi dan kejuruteraan," katanya kepada wartawan Malaysia hari ini.

Muhyiddin yang juga Menteri Pelajaran berada di sini bagi menghadiri mesyuarat ke-184 Lembaga Eksekutif Pertubuhan Pendidikan, Saintifik dan Kebudayaan Bangsa-Bangsa Bersatu (Unesco) yang bermula esok.

Penajaan PILN, katanya, akan ditawarkan mengikut empat kategori iaitu populasi kaum (60 peratus), kecemerlangan akademik (20 peratus), Bumiputera Sabah dan Sarawak (10 peratus) serta golongan "socially disadvantaged" (10 peratus). - Bernama

RM1.24b scholarships to be offered to top scorers

PARIS: The government, through the Public Service Department (PSD), will offer 1,500 scholarships to top Sijil Pelajaran Malaysia (SPM) students under the overseas undergraduate scholarship programme, with sponsorship totalling RM1.24 billion, Deputy Prime Minister Tan Sri Muhyiddin Yassin said.

Muhyiddin, who is also the education minister, said the programme was aimed at creating quality human capital to continue spurring the country to greater heights in the future.

"The focus is on critical and priority sectors such as medical, dentistry, pharmacy and engineering," he told Malaysian journalists covering his visit here in conjunction with the 184th session of the Unesco executive board, which begins tomorrow.

He said that the sponsorship distribution would be based on four categories namely population (60 per cent), academic excellence (20 per cent), Bumiputeras of Sabah and Sarawak (10 per cent) and the socially-disadvantaged (10 per cent).

Among the criteria for the scholarship were academic achievement, involvement in co-curriculum activities, socio-economic factor, family background and performance during interviews.

He said engineering and medical were two most popular courses among candidates, with the United Kingdom, Australia and New Zealand being the top countries chosen by most of the 18,844 applicants, including 10,114 who applied through the PSD.

However, Muhyiddin said, courses in the priority sectors were offered in various countries including Australia, New Zealand, India, Czech Republic and Poland as well as through twinning programmes at the Penang Medical College, Melaka Manipal Medical College and the International Medical University Malaysia.

For engineering, the countries included France, Germany and the United States, he said.

Apart from overseas sponsorship, he said, the government also gave priority to sponsoring students to pursue studies at four Malaysian research universities namely the Universiti Sains Malaysia (USM), Universiti Kebangsaan Malaysia (UKM), Universiti of Malaya (UM) and Universiti Putra Malaysia (UPM), with 100 sponsorships provided.

Successful applicants would receive a subsistence allowance at the rate of 50 per cent higher than the rate offered by federal scholarships to students pursuing studies locally, he said.

In view of the stiff competition, Muhyiddin said, a total of 1,900 sponsorships would be offered to top students, who were not chosen for the overseas scholarship programme, to study locally.

"The sponsorship is for the matriculation, pre-science and pre-university courses as well as for the first degree if they fulfilled the academic qualification at the preparatory stage," he said.

The cost for sponsoring 10,500 students locally was RM1.2 billion, he added.

Applications are now open through the website - Bernama

Wednesday, March 31, 2010

Top 30 SPM students on cloud nine


PETALING JAYA: When the country’s top Sijil Pelajaran Malaysia (SPM) student Gladys Tan Yee Kim was told she was one of the 30 recipients of the inaugural national scholarship programme, she thought it was an April Fool’s joke.

“Is this for real?” asked the Kuching lass when The Star reporter conveyed the good news to her.

Quickly recovering from her surprise, Gladys said that she wished to study psychology in the United States.

“I’m really interested to learn about people, so I can use this knowledge to contribute to society and combat the social ills that plague it,” she said.

Gladys is one of the country’s 30 top performing students who are receiving scholarships from the Government for obtaining A+’s in all subjects in the SPM.

They would be able to pursue undergraduate degrees in their areas of interest as recognised by the Government at renowned universities locally and abroad under the national scholarship programme.

According to a statement from the Prime Minister’s Office, the aim of the prestigious programme is to offer scholarships to the country’s top performing students in order to produce quality human capital for the nation.

Prime Minister Datuk Seri Najib Tun Razak announced last June that a new category of Public Service Department scholarships would be introduced this year based purely on merit, regardless of race.

The students would attend preparatory courses at centres in the country designated by the government and must attain a certain level of excellence to qualify for their studies abroad.

When told of the news, another student Amelia Lee Wei Ling from SMK Taman Melawati almost dropped her telephone in excitement as she relayed her good fortune to her parents.

“I’ve been really praying for this as I’ve applied for a number of different scholarships as well,” she said, adding that she intended to pursue a career in medicine.

Syamilah Mahali from Kolej Tunku Kurshiah, said she was happy to learn that her hard work had paid off.

“I’m really thankful for this opportunity, and I hope that I can get a place for medicine at the Royal College of Surgeons in Ireland,” she said.

Former SMK (P) Sri Aman student Grace Kiew Sze-Ern who was also the country’s second best student in the SPM, said that she was delighted by the news.

“I really did not expect this and I don’t even know what I’m going to study or where,” she said, adding that she was considering pursuing either medicine or dentistry.

Saturday, March 27, 2010

Senarai Agen

( dan merupakan syarikat sama yang memasarkan produk-produk ini. Agen yang berdaftar dengan salah satunya juga merupakan agen untuk produk yang lain)

Examo boleh terus dipesan secara online melalui laman web Examo ( atau blog ini. Selain daripada itu, anda juga boleh menghubungi mana-mana agen kami.

Sekiranya ada sebarang pertanyaan, sila hubungi kami di sini.

Klik sini untuk melihat senarai agen / wakil

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Apa Kata Pengguna Examo

Kami akan memuatkan lebih banyak testimoni-testimoni pengguna Examo.

Cara Mengambil Examo

Set Examo terdiri daripada:
  • Examo-CKM 500 (dimakan setiap hari)
  • Examo-CKM 500 Plus (dimakan seminggu sekali sahaja sebagai booster atau penguat)
Kedua-dua ubat ini perlu dikemam di dalam mulut.

Cara Mengambil Examo-CKM 500 (450 biji)

Kategori Usia Biji Examo-CKM 500
Minggu Kekerapan Pengambilan
Bayi Kurang 1 tahun 1 1 3 kali sehari
Kanak-kanak 1 - 7 tahun 2 2 2 kali sehari
Kanak-kanak 7 - 14 tahun 3 3 2 kali sehari
Dewasa 14 tahun ke atas 4 4 ke atas 1 kali sehari

Contohnya, untuk seorang yang berusia 8 tahun, dia perlulah mengambil 2 biji setiap kali mengambil Examo:
  • Minggu 1 : 2 biji 3x sehari (pagi, tengahari, malam)
  • Minggu 2 : 2 biji 2x sehari (pagi, malam)
  • Minggu 3 : 2 biji 2x sehari (pagi, malam)
  • Minggu 4 : 2 biji sekali sehari (pagi)
Begitu juga minggu seterusnya, sama dengan minggu ke-4, iaitu 2 biji sekali sehari (pagi).

Cara Mengambil Examo-CKM 500 Plus (16 biji)

Examo-CKM 500 Plus yang mengandungi 16 biji sebotol hanya perlu diambil sekali sahaja seminggu.

Cara Examo Bertindak

EXAMO CKM 500 bertindak empat cara iaitu:

a) Mencerdaskan akal.

EXAMO CKM 500 mampu mencerdaskan otak kerana is membantu menyuburkan dendron dan dendrit. Dendron berfungsi mengumpul maklumat dalam otak menerusi

sentuhan sinaps. Semakin subur pertumbuhan dendron dan dendrit maka lebih banyak maklumat yang dapat disimpan oleh otak. Sentuhan antara sinaps(sinaps aksosomatik dan aksodendritik) membentuk laluan neural(neural pathway) untuk membawa maklumat yang dikehendaki. Satu neuron mungkin mempunyai 1,000 hingga 10,000 sinaps. Menurut Prof. Pyotr Kuzmich Anokhin, pakar bedah saraf bangsa Rusia mendapati neuron otak orang cerdik berkeadaan lebih subur jika
dibandingkan dengan orang bodoh.

b) Menguatkan ingatan

Lemah daya ingatan ataupun lemah daya untuk mengingat membawa kepada masalah lupa. Kelemahan daya dan tenaga boleh dikuatkan kajian yang telah dilakukan oleh Dr. Shuessler menunjukkan enam jenis garam tisu biokimia yang diperlukan oleh otak sebagai makanan. Tetapi berdasarkan analisis Prof. Dr. Azizan Hj Ismail, tiga garam tisu biokimia memadai iaitu Kalsium Fosfat, Kalium Fosfat dan Magnesium Fosfat. Rumusan istimewa ketiga-tiga garam tisu ini terdapat di dalam EXAMO CKM 500.

c) Menambah Tenaga Mental

Tenaga mental adalah dalam bentuk tenaga elektrik. Jika berlaku kekurangan tenaga elektrik, is boleh dijanakan kembali daripada tindak balas kimia, sama seperti "rechargeable battery". Tenaga kimia yang terhasil dan tindak balas ini boleh diubah menjadi tenaga elektrik. Proses yang berlaku dalam otak yang melibatkan fenomena ini dikenali sebagai proses elektrokimia.

Dr. David Samuels dari Institut Weismann, menganggarkan pada setiap saat otak melakukan antara 100,000 hingga 1,000,000 proses elektrokimia. Proses ini tidak mungkin berlaku tanpa bahan kimia tertentu seperti Kalsium, Kalium, Magnesium dan Fosforus. EXAMO CKM 500 mempunyai ciri-ciri keperluan proses elektrokimia.

d) Mendatangkan ketenangan

Bagi mereka yang menduduki mana-mana peperiksaan atau ujian memang berperasaan tidak tenang. Biarpun membaca nota dan buku, namun orang yang tidak tenang tidak dapat mengingati pelajaran malah wujud perasaan lain seperti resah gelisah sehingga menimbulkan rasa takut dan hilang keyakinan diri. EXAMO CKM 500 dapat mengurangkan serangan panik menghadapi peperiksaan, mengembalikan ketenangan dan menimbulkan kerajinan untuk belajar.

Permulaan Examo

Imam al-Ghazali telah mengkaji fungsi otak hampir sembilan ratus tahun dahulu. Beliau telah mengenal pasti lima fungsi utama otak. Menurut kajian beliau, pada otak berlakunya beberapa aktiviti seperti ingatan, visual, perasaan, sintesis dan daya fikir.

Dr. Hussein Nabil Hasyim, pakar bedah dari Universiti Iskandariah menegaskan fungsi otak sebagai fungsi utama badan. Di sinilah tempat akal dengan fungsi tertinggi berfikir, merenung, mengatur dan mengendalikan fungsi kehidupan manusia.

Terdapat hadis Rasulullah s.a.w yang bermaksud "orang yang cerdas otaknya ialah orang yang tunduk dan beramal untuk akhiratnya. Orang yang lemah otaknya ialah orang yang suka mengikut hawa nafsunya kepada perkara-perkara yang tercela".

Dalam agama Buddha, konsep penerapan akal fikir juga turut diamalkan melalui kaedah meditasi (penyucian jiwa). Begitu juga dengan agama-agama lain yang banyak menggunakan konsep akal fikir yang tersendiri.

Menurut 'World Book', kesihatan mental dan fizikal berkait rapat. Kesihatan mental mempunyai peranan penting dalam kedua-dua cara manusia bertingkah laku dan cara mereka merasa. Menurut Sheila Ostrander dan Lynn Schroeder buku 'Super Learning 2000' makanan boleh meningkat kecerdasan, menguatkan ingatan dan menguatkan daya keupayaan pembelajaran.

Oleh itu untuk mendapatkan daya berfikir yang aktif dan kreatif, otak mestilah diberikan bahan makanan yang sesuai. Berdasarkan prinsip-prinsip tersebut dan merujuk kepada nutrisi sel Dr. Wilhelm Helmut Schuessler, telah mendorong Prof. Dr. Azizan Haji Ismail seorang pakar pemakanan kesihatan tempatan untuk merumus nutrisi biokimia yang dikenali dengan nama EXAMO CKM 500 (NO PBKD: MAL20032551T)

(Sejarah lengkap Examo akan menyusul)

SPA tawar lepasan SPM latihan separa perubatan

KUALA LUMPUR: Suruhanjaya Perkhidmatan Awam (SPA) semalam menawarkan kepada lulusan Sijil Pelajaran Malaysia (SPM) 2009 untuk mengikuti 13 jenis Latihan Separa Perubatan bertaraf Diploma dan Sijil bagi kemasukan Julai 2010.

Setiausaha SPA, Datuk Lamien Sawiyo, berkata latihan itu ditawarkan secara percuma dan mereka yang terpilih akan mendapat jaminan penempatan pekerjaan secara tetap.

Katanya, latihan bertaraf diploma akan dijalankan selama tiga tahun manakala latihan bertaraf sijil pula adalah selama dua setengah tahun dan jumlah kekosongan yang ditawarkan adalah sebanyak 3,315 orang. Beliau berkata, had umur untuk calon memohon Latihan Separa Perubatan adalah tidak kurang 17 tahun dan tidak melebihi 25 tahun pada tarikh tutup permohonan bagi calon lantikan terus manakala bagi Pegawai Sedang Berkhidmat untuk Kenaikan Pangkat Secara Lantikan (KPSL) pula hendaklah berumur kurang 51 tahun.

“Program Latihan Bertaraf Diploma yang ditawarkan adalah Juru X-ray, Jururawat, Jurupulih Perubatan (Cara Kerja dan Anggota), Penolong Pegawai Farmasi, Penolong Pegawai Kesihatan Persekitaran, Penolong Pegawai Perubatan, Juruteknologi Makmal Perubatan, Juruteknologi Pergigian dan Jururawat Pergigian,” katanya dalam satu kenyataan semalam.

Beliau berkata, selepas tamat latihan, pelatih akan dilantik secara tetap dan diberi penempatan di hospital atau klinik kesihatan kerajaan di seluruh negara.

“Oleh yang demikian, calon tidak perlu risau untuk mencari pekerjaan selepas menamatkan latihan. Selain belajar secara percuma, pelatih juga akan diberikan biasiswa bulanan,” katanya.

Beliau berkata, tarikh akhir permohonan pada Khamis ini. Keterangan lanjut tawaran boleh layari portal SPA di

Is your spouse a bad parent?
22 March 2010

The definition of a bad parent is very subjective. It could be someone who neglects, abandons or abuses his children. Or it could even be a parent who provides financially but isn't there emotionally or psychologically for the children.

If you are reading this article, chances are you think your spouse isn't committed enough to the children or isn't spending enough time with your kids.

Family life educator Charis Patrick says it does happen and it's not always the dad, too. Even mums are sometimes guilty of this.

She explains that sometimes it is because the parent feels they are not ready for a baby and would rather run away from the responsibility.

“If your marriage is at a stage where you can communicate then I would suggest you talk it out with your spouse.

“Tell him or her that this is your child and you can't cope by yourself and you both need to take care of the child together.

“If he or she still cannot be bothered then I think you have to carry out your parenting role the best that you can while continuously trying to bring your spouse in,” says Patrick.

Assign tasks

She advises the responsible parent to study the strengths of their spouse. If the hands-off parent is not good at changing diapers or managing the child's meals, then perhaps give him or her some other task such as taking care of the money.

This means that when the child starts going to school, the job of liaising with the school will fall on one parent and the job of giving out the pocket money will be the other parent's job.

“Don't suddenly give your spouse 10 tasks to do. He or she will be so overwhelmed. Perhaps you could start with three things to begin with that you know he or she will be quite willing to take up. Or ask him/her: 'I know you feel overwhelmed with childcare, what are the three things you would like to start with?'

“When your spouse feels it is possible maybe he or she will feel motivated to come in and join you in this parenting journey,” she adds.

If your children are already schoolgoing they will tell you if they think dad or mum isn't spending enough time with them.

However, for smaller children you would be planning their routine and it would be up to you to monitor if your spouse isn't spending enough time with them.

“A very common scenario is when you want to take the family out but your husband does nothing about it and seems disinterested. I would tell the woman to plan and propose the outing and get him to approve it. Just tell him the time and date, tell him when to take leave and then make it happen. And, really hope that he enjoys that time so that he will be motivated to do it again the next time,” says Patrick.

Alternatively, you could tell him to plan the next outing. That's another way to get him involved.

Don't overdo it

If your spouse is assigned to plan an outing and he fails to plan anything, don't drive yourself crazy trying to organise that outing for him.

Let the whole family go through the consequence of him failing to plan the outing.

“As much as you guide and support, sometimes you just have to let the family enjoy the natural consequences so that he will sense the disappointment of the children and he will be motivated the next time to do better and not disappoint the whole family,” says Patrick.

She warns parents, especially women, not to overdo it when it comes to planning routines and outings for the family. There is the risk that you are so good at planning that your spouse acknowledges it and insists you keep doing it.

She explains that typically women tend to do too much in some families. What happens then is that the wife/mother is so efficient that she does all the tasks herself, not leaving space for her husband to play his role as the father.

Patrick: 'If you step back will your spouse step in to do more?'
“You have to see the dynamics. If you step back will your spouse step in to do more? And if your spouse is really quite bad at parenting, then you may have to maintain a lot of the responsibility for a while for the sake of the children. Meanwhile continue that negotiation with your spouse. You won't know how he will respond until you try so maybe you should learn how to take a step back. It's quite difficult for some women who have an overperforming role.”

Golf and holiday dads

How about the once-a-year-holiday dads or the golf dads?

Patrick reminds parents that relationships are not built on once-a-year vacations. Building a relationship is a daily affair. The same goes for golf dads who work hard and then play golf on the weekends, leaving the wife to handle the family.

“Honestly speaking it doesn't take a lot for a golf-playing dad to just make sure when he comes back from work every day that he connects with his child. If they are small, read to them a bedtime story. If they are teenagers, talk to them about their world views, their thinking or about their day. And that will be the great connect when you go for your annual vacation.

“It doesn't work if you have not been connecting day to day and suddenly you go for a vacation together. You won't know how to be together for 24 hours a day in a resort. It is meaningless if you go for a family holiday when you're all off doing your own thing (instead of spending time together).

“If you ask me if taking a family vacation will make up for the lost time on a regular basis, I will say no,” says Patrick.

If, despite all your efforts, your spouse still insists he or she has no time for the children because he or she has to work, then there needs to be a conversation between the husband and wife.

Perhaps a compromise can be met whereby your spouse agrees to come home early once a week. It needs to be early enough to see the children before they go to bed.

“Those who have a choice need to make their children a priority. Some families really have no choice because they need to work hard and work overtime because they need the money to keep the family going.

“The wonderful thing is that if the child knows you are working super hard to pay the bills and therefore you have no time for them usually they will understand. If you have a choice to come back but prefer to be out or spend time with other people, they will know that you don't care about them,” she explains.

What if your spouse really does want to do more but he or she is really bad at certain tasks that even your child prefers you to do it? For example, your child might prefer you to do crafts with her because dad just messes it up.

“For me, as long as he's prepared to step in it's a very good sign. It may not be up to your standard and perhaps you will just have to suffer that lower standard for a while. Whether the child is happy or not is less important than dad's involvement because his involvement is a long-term plan. He needs time to grow into that role. Unless you give him the time and space to grow, mature and be good at that, he will never learn and the last thing you want to do is push him out of that role.

“I think men need a lot of encouragement for the small achievements. Don't put them down.”

The ex-spouse

What happens if the hands-off and non-committal parent is your ex-husband or ex-wife? It could be that they're not spending enough time with the children or they want to take the children out for a treat at 10pm on a school night.

Says Patrick:

“If the 'bad' parent is an ex-spouse, I will explain to the child that because daddy and mummy live in different households, we have different families and different rules now. You could perhaps say, 'I know that when you go there you are allowed to play games the whole day and indulge. Because that is not my family anymore, I can't say anything but I want to let you know that when you come back to my family, my rules apply.'

“The child needs to know that. If the child is mature enough, I will try to explain the consequences to all the things that they are allowed to indulge in at the other parent's house.

“I would be very honest and tell the child that I have no control on what happens on the other side but perhaps they might want to think it through on their own and make their own decisions. This way, if your ex-spouse wants to take them out late on a school night, they can then choose whether to go or not. At least you plant that thought in the child to let him or her know that they have a choice.

“I would never attempt to change the other parent who is an ex-spouse, but I would let the child know that when they are with me my rules still apply and they have a choice when they are in the other parent's house. And I would remind myself not to say bad things about the other person.

“If your ex-spouse wants to take the children out on a school night when the child is with you, then I would put my foot down. The child needs some routine. Explain to your ex that the children would love to go out with her/him but not tonight because it's a school night.

“It may not be easy but if I have custody then I would do what's in the best interest of the child. I would then say 'No' and the other parent has no right to come and take my child because it's outside of their visitation time/rights with the child. Still, be very cordial about it. It's important not to get emotional because that's when it's very bad for the child because the child will feel very torn.”

She says that parents should never try to explain or make excuses for the other party because you can never be accurate. Even if you manage to, you'll probably be half lying and the child will know it.

If you are divorced, it is best not to try and control what happens when your children are with their other parent.

Your children will eventually realise that you have very little say in what happens on the other side and when you're transparent and honest they will really appreciate you.

Are girls smarter than boys?

IS THE education system more suited to the learning style of girls? Is that why boys are lagging behind girls in public examinations and why boys are outnumbered at public universities?

No, says Malaysian Qualifications Agency (MQA) chief executive officer Datuk Dr Syed Ahmad Hussein.

Syed Ahmad says it is not a gender-based problem but rather a sociological one.

"It is a recent phenomenon as it was not a problem 10 years ago. What it is, I'm not sure. It needs to be studied. Maybe Malaysian boys are spoilt and get away with many things, including not studying hard.

"It is possible that girls perform better in an exam-oriented system but that does not mean girls would not perform as well in an alternative system."

He says some people suggest that boys perform better in a hands-on learning environment rather than one which requires a lot of memorisation.

However, says Syed Ahmad: "The results might be the same if the system is changed. I still hold to the position that we should have an education system that prescribes lifelong learning.

"There should be enough channels for people to return to a formal education system whenever they want.

"We should not be obsessed with having an equal number of boys and girls in the top 10. We should be obsessed with every Malaysian having continuous opportunities to continue their education whenever they want."

Malaysian Association of Private Colleges and Universities (Mapcu) president Dr Parmjit Singh says while there was absolutely nothing wrong with girls doing better than boys, it was important to recognise why boys were not doing as well as the girls.

"It is common knowledge among parents of young children that the learning process that the boys are adapted to is quite different from that of girls.

"What is critical and crucial now is to have an education process that lends itself to the way both boys and girls learn and to bring out the best in them. Even in higher education, we see some differences in the way boys and girls learn."

He says if the disparity continued to persist, it would mean the nation would not get the best out of the boys.

"The education system should align itself to suit the learning patterns of both boys and girls."

Parmjit says anyone taking a cursory look at any classroom today would see boys being restless and bored.

"It's the boys' behavioural patterns, make-up and learning patterns. For example, when you buy something new, a boy will not be patient enough to look at the instructions.

"He will fiddle around with it until he finds out how it works. They are more experimental and hands-on.

"Girls have a tendency to not experiment so much. They will look at the instruction booklet or ask their peers.

"These are just the ways people learn. To get them to learn, the learning process has to adapt to the learning needs of both boys and girls."

MQA deputy chief executive officer Prof Zita Mohd Fahmi, however, feels there is nothing wrong with the education system.

"I think girls are very hardworking. When I was the dean of a law school, the female students' scores at the point of entry were already better than the males.

"This is not an issue isolated to Malaysia. I don't think there is anything wrong with the education system. I think in the Asian context, parents are more lenient with boys.

"I have two sons and two daughters and I find the girls' approach to life is different. But maybe the school environment should be more conducive and cater to the needs of both genders."

Academician Professor Emeritus Tan Sri Khoo Kay Kim agrees that the problem is not with the education system.

"If you look at the culture of the people, in particular Malays and Indians, Malay and Indian girls are not allowed that much freedom compared with Chinese girls.

"Due to that, the girls tend to give more attention to their studies while the boys are running wild.

"Chinese boys have that something extra which is helpful to them. They believe that if you succeed in education, you will become a successful person in life, although empirical evidence shows that most of the successful businessmen in Malaysia had very little education."

Khoo says parents and teachers have an integral role to play in this regard.

"We cannot just look at the schools. Parents on the whole are very ignorant. Many have old-fashioned ideas and feel that if their child chooses to do history and geography, they will not be able to get employed.

"But the truth is, most of those who are unemployed are science graduates. One example are IT (information technology) graduates.

"How many successful people were straight A students in the past?

"Teachers must always try to recognise the talent in a particular child. They must recognise what the child is able to do best and then help the child develop his or her talent.

"Now, they treat all the children as one child. This was not the way of teachers in the past."

Friday, March 19, 2010

No Internet or tuition but still tops

PUTRAJAYA: While most people relied on tuition and additional classes to score top marks in public examinations, Ahmad Rahimi Sudin chose the old-fashioned way of reading up before the lesson was taught in class.

This made him not only on par with the teachers but also a much sought-after mentor among his peers.

Ahmad Rahimi, 18, a special needs student who was born with a deformed leg, said he was not a big fan of the Internet either.

The Kuantan Integrated Boarding School (Sekolah Berasrama Penuh Integrasi, Kuantan) student relied mostly on classroom notes and group study sessions.

"I worked hard and focused on my favourite subjects like Physics and Additional Mathematics," he said.

This paved the way for him to score 7A+, 2As and 1A- in his examinations.

The seventh of eight children to a policeman and a housewife, Rahimi said he would most likely be pursuing Physics as a subject in university.

Top scorer from Sekolah Menengah Kebangsaan Taman Melawati, Selangor, Amelia Lee Wei Ling, however, chose medicine as her field.

Attributing her 12A+ and consistent academic achievement to her parents, friends and teachers, Lee said she had a lot of help from tuition classes.

"I worked really hard. I also believe God has helped me throughout. I hope to get a scholarship and enrol in a university overseas."

Several schools have already put in place a "buddy system" where students who performed better would help the weaker ones to catch up and improve on their lessons.

Among them is the Gombak Integrated Boarding School (Sekolah Berasrama Penuh Integrasi Gombak).

Govt to aid students with poor SPM results

PUTRAJAYA: The Education Ministry and the Human Resources Ministry will discuss how best to assist students who failed or scored poorly in their Sijil Pelajaran Malaysia (SPM) examination last year, Deputy Prime Minister Tan Sri Muhyiddin Yassin said.

Muhyiddin, who is the education minister, said the ministry and related agencies would find ways to help these students obtain the necessary skills so that they could continue to pursue education and career.

"The Education Ministry will not sideline schools which obtained less than encouraging results.

"We will continue to narrow the gap in the average grade achievement especially between urban and rural schools," he said at the 2009 SPM Excellence Awards here on Friday.

At the event, Muhyiddin presented certificates of appreciation to 10 schools for scoring excellent results in the 2009 SPM as well as to 16 students, including four with special needs and two from sports school, who excelled in their SPM.

Muhyiddin said the 10 schools were chosen based on the average grades they achieved in the SPM.

This year, he said school achievements were categorised as excellent, good, satisfactory and having potential based on their respective average grades.

"This is to enable school principals to know the position of their schools so that they can work on increasing their average grades," he said.

The deputy prime minister also praised the special students for having shown fortitude and determination by scoring excellent results despite their physical disabilities.

"The same goes to sports students. Although they spent most of their time in sports activities, they still managed to score excellent academic results. This shows that involvement in sports is not a barrier to academic excellence," he said.

In the event, Muhyiddin announced a special capital assistance of RM100,000 to repair Sekolah Jenis Kebangsaan Cina San Yuk in Rawang, Selangor which was damaged in a fire during a robbery last month.

In the incident, robbers set the school's administration office and a printing cabin on fire and injuried two security guards.

"The education ministry sympathised with the school, teachers and students," Muhyiddin said. - BERNAMA

Muhyiddin sifatkan Ungku Aziz lambang keintelektualan

KUALA LUMPUR: Tan Sri Muhyiddin Yassin menyifatkan Profesor Diraja Ungku Aziz adalah lambang intelektual tulen yang berjaya meletakkan penanda aras amat tinggi dalam dunia keintelektualan tanah air.

Timbalan Perdana Menteri berkata, keintelektualan bekas pensyarah beliau ketika mengikuti pengajian di Universiti Malaya (UM) dari 1966 hingga 1970 itu dapat dilihat menerusi impak kajian ilmiahnya yang berjaya merubah pemikiran dan sikap masyarakat serta kesannya terhadap dasar kerajaan, terutama dalam pembasmian kemiskinan dan pemugaran ekonomi desa.

“Saya fikir inilah falsafah sebenar manusia intelektual dan peranan universiti sebagai gedung ilmu. “Apabila kita memperkatakan mengenai kajian berimpak tinggi, ukuran kita semestinya bukan hanya untuk menerbitkan makalah dalam jurnal antarabangsa, sekadar untuk meningkatkan kedudukan universiti, mencapai sasaran kuantitatif Penunjuk Prestasi utama (KPI) atau mendapat peluang kenaikan pangkat, tetapi mengenai sejauh mana kajian dihasilkan dapat memberikan kesan secara signifikan kepada perkembangan pemikiran masyarakat dan peningkatan kemajuan negara,” katanya.

Beliau berkata demikian ketika melancarkan buku Royal Professor Ungku Aziz: The Renaissance Man yang diterbitkan oleh Penerbit Universiti Malaya sempena meraikan ulang tahun kelahiran Ungku Aziz ke-88 di UM, di sini semalam.

Hadir sama Menteri Pengajian Tinggi, Datuk Seri Mohamed Khaled Nordin; Naib Canselor UM, Prof Datuk Dr Ghauth Jasmon dan Ungku Aziz.

Muhyiddin berkata, keistimewaan Ungku Aziz terletak kepada keupayaannya menguasai pelbagai disiplin ilmu dan menggunakan ilmu yang dikuasainya itu untuk mengemukakan pandangan yang praktikal dan ilmiah kepada sesuatu permasalahan atau isu dihadapi masyarakat.

“Sebagai seorang intelektual, beliau memberikan kepemimpinan moral dan etika bukan saja kepada warga universiti tetapi kepada masyarakat untuk membentuk pemikiran dan memupuk sikap selari dan secocok dengan tuntutan kemajuan dan pemodenan,” katanya.